Sexual Intimacy

In class today we talked about sexual intimacy and how important it is within a marriage.  We talked about a lot of the physiology and it was definitely interesting to say the least.  A lot of people I think were afraid to talk about it because it is such a taboo in our culture, especially when not married.  I don't really understand this at all because I feel like it can be such a beautiful aspect that is in our lives.  We learned marital intimacy needs relaxation, comfort, and love.
There are many things that are different in the physiology between a man and a woman.  The boys are a lot faster in many different aspects where the woman is a lot slower.  We also learned that boys sexual peak is 18-19 years old and a girls sexual peak is 30-35 years old.  This can cause several problems.  A woman usually wants to feel safety and confidence are needed to have sexual intimacy.  A man usually wants physical intimacy in order to be closer with their spouse.  Some challenges that can arise from this are communication and timing.  There are some opportunities that can come from this also including learning sacrifice for your spouse, the peaks will start to extend, and the relief of stress.  The best love making is when we sacrifice for each other and think about the wants and needs of our spouse.

What is LOVE?

As I have said before, I am engaged to a wonderful man named Andrew.  I love this man with my whole being and I am so proud and thankful that he entered my life and become so much apart of it.  This week in class, we learned about marriage and the different types of love.  There are several different types of love that were mentioned in class.  There are four different types to describe the word love.  The first is agape which means love or true love.  The second is eros which means passionate love, with sensual desire and longing.  The third love is philia which means affectionate regard or friendship.  And the last love is storge which means affection in regards to parents to offspring.

While learning about these different types of love, all I could think about is that I want all of those types of love in my life.  Not necessarily all from one person, but throughout my life I want to have all of those types of love.  With my soon to be husband, I want to have agape, eros, and philia.  I want Andrew to be my best friend, to love on me physically, and to be my true love.  So far, Andrew has been everything that I could have imagined, with the things that we can do now.  When we are married I know that the other part of love will be fulfilled too.  The part that I am most excited for is storge.  I watch my sister, brother in law, and nephew, and they are so much in love with him.  They would do anything for him and I can't wait to feel that way as well.  I have really enjoyed reading about love and everything that goes along with it.